Overreacting? Ugh, hate pregnancy hormones?
Question by yellow fuzzy:
Overreacting? Ugh, hate pregnancy hormones?
I realize now, even though I’m frustrated, that by next week, it probably won’t be a big deal. So, that means I’m most likely overreacting. So, any advice you want to throw at me is more than welcome. What do you think?
I’m due July 20th with our first. A couple months ago, my mother made a big deal about how she was going to buy us the travel system we wanted- it’s around $ 250- and give us that as a gift for the baby shower. The shower is this next weekend, by the way, and my mom said she’d pay for pictures up to around $ 50.
So, my mom called me up on Friday, and told me she’d scheduled a photo session for me and my husband, to get the “pregnancy” pictures taken. I was excited, and asked her how much it was, because I might have to wait a couple weeks until payday. She said not to worry, because that was her shower gift to us. I said something to the effect of, “I thought you said you were going to buy the carseat and stroller?” So she says, “Well, someone else can buy that for you at the shower.”
My mother-in-law is throwing the baby shower, and I think that my mom has issues with that. The problem here is that we’ve already told my husband’s family that my mother was buying the travel system for us, so we can’t expect that. I mean, I’m not expecting for family to just buy us everything we need, by any means. I’m just frustrated, because we were going to buy the carseat and stroller a couple months ago, when we had the extra money, and my mom told us not to, because she would buy it.
So, I think I’m probably overreacting… what do you think? Thanks for letting me vent. LOL.
5 Responses so far ↓
Amy on Mar 13, 2011 at 12:53 am
probably. if you really need it and dont think u can come up with the money before u have the baby, maybe tell her you would rather have the travel system. pictures are cheaper you could buy those urself.
Pookie on Mar 13, 2011 at 1:47 am
I would be very upset too, especially because now you wont get the travel system you need without having to go out and buy it yourself, wouldn’t be a huge issue had your mother never mentioned in the first place that she was getting it for you as a presant, so honestly, I would call her up and tell her that you;ve thought about it and as much as you appreciate the photo’s as your shower gift, you would much rather invest that money into the travel system YOU NEED, it might put things in perspective for her, and play up that it isn’t that you dont want the photo’s done, its that your child and family comes first and right now that car seat takes priority, maybe she will end up cancelling the photo session and giving you the $ 100 towards the travel system instead, or wise up…or maybe she has you both COMPLETELY fooled and has actually boughten it for you- either way Id be a little peeved and Id talk to my mom about it
♥Riyen's Mom & Ayah due 4.12 on Mar 13, 2011 at 2:08 am
Yeah, I see how you are irritated but when it comes to gifts it is just that. A gift. If you didn’t put it on your registery, go ahead and do that and see if someone else gets it for you. If they don’t, take all your gift cards and get the things that are left over including your stroller. I expected to buy EVERYTHING for my first and just felt lucky when I got everything from my registery.
killbodies on Mar 13, 2011 at 2:23 am
Your pregnant. Not overreacting. I also get very frustrated at situations such as this. I can tell my husband gets a little irritated at it, he tells me hes not mad at me, hes mad at my hormones.
Your are in a sticky situation now, you were expecting a gift and its almost as if you already had it and it was taken away. Now you have to either hope and pray someone gets you one or you can save up the extra money in time – very stressful in a time like this.
Maybe try talking to your mother about it, maybe she can still buy it for you and you can pay her back so you dont have to panic about the money right now. Or bring up the situation jokingly to his side of the family and let them know what happened without being to obvious!
Good luck, I hope you get your travel system!
Jennifer on Mar 13, 2011 at 2:27 am
Keep in mind that your shower hasn’t happened yet, and you don’t know for sure what surprises might be in store for you. Maybe your mother knows that some other relatives are springing for the travel set… you are risking causing an awkward situation (and seeming ungrateful) by blatantly bringing up that she backed out on her gift for you.
Maybe you could bring it up in a subtle way by letting her know how much you hope to receive it (without making it seem like her job to purchase it). If she knows how important it is to you, then maybe she’ll help you buy it if you don’t get it at your shower.
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